If you don’t shine, I don’t shine.

Shine Theory states that when we shine a light on others – when we lift them up and cheer them on – the light they’re in gets reflected back onto us and we shine too. When we’re too busy getting caught up in our own insecurities, our light doesn’t shine because we’ve built a wall around it and that leaves everyone in the dark. (See also: “This little light of mine.”)

I’m running alongside some wildly successful people – some of whom are making more per month than most would ever dream of making per year. And guess what… they’re all cheering for one another!

While it’s human nature (we live in a fallen world) for us to be jealous, envious and insecure by comparison, it takes a conscience effort to applaud and lift up those around us who are winning.

Mean girls and gay boys, it’s time to STOP tearing each other apart and start cheering each other on.

What if you adopted an, “I don’t shine if you don’t shine,” mentality?

Ann Friedman said it best: “When you meet someone who is intimidatingly witty, stylish, beautiful and professionally accomplished, befriend them! Surrounding yourself with the best people doesn’t make you look worse by comparison. It makes you better.”

You are known by the company you keep. Are you in good company? Are you shining a light on those around you? Do sit around and gossip about people’s flaws in order to keep people from seeing your own, or do you sit around and celebrate the good things people are doing in their lives? Who can you shine on today?